I have to admit that 2021 wasn’t an easy year for me. I have grown and changed, made progress and learned new things about myself. With that being said I also did not meet my goals for the year, lost loved ones, and had a very difficult year overall.
When people around me were excited to celebrate NYE I was sad and definitely was not in the mood of celebrating. I realized though, that I really was concentrating only on the bad experiences I’ve had, completely ignoring all the good memories and the progress I have been through.
So, for this upcoming year, I wish myself to be happy, set goals and focus on progress instead of achievements. I do know now that it is okay not to be 100% all the time and I hope that 2022 is going to be a great on for all!
I did it! I finally finished my military service which means… colourful nails! I missed the freedom of choosing the perfect colour to express feelings or just match my outfits throughout each season. For this special occasion, I decided to paint my nails in red. This was probably one of the most exciting moments I had this week. I know that I share this feeling with many of my girl friends but this does not apply to my guy friends, why?
When I ask guys about men painting their nails I almost immediately get answers like “nail polish is for girls” or “only women care about getting their nails done,” which might have been true 20 years ago but not anymore. More than that, even those who are interested in applying nail polish wouldn’t say anything about it so that their friends would make fun of them. Our society have changed so much and for some reason it seems like when we talk about some basic actions that defined femininity and masculinity in the past are still applicable in the present. This is true to other aspects as well: clothing, home chores, sports, occupation and even education. Gender roles and gender inequality are not supposed to be a thing in or lives and the question is what can we do to make this gap a little smaller?
First, accept people’s way of expressing themselves, regardless of their gender or identity. If we give each other a safe place to be who they are, we’ll get a community that all its individuals can freely and safely express their true selves.
Second, raise awareness! It is great that each one of us has mad a step towards a safer community but that’s not enough to make a change. T o make an actual change we need more and more people to progress. The best way is to talk about issues regarding gender roles and norms with friends, family, neighbours or even share content on social media.
Lastly, educate! In my opinion, this one is the most important one to actually build a stable community. To make sure a change isn’t just a temporary change we need to make sure that next generations understand this as well. It is so important to talk with young kids about this because they eventually will become the adults that teach their kids and so on. Moreover, if from a young age we make sure that kids know that gender roles are only imaginary roles, it will be so obvious for them that they can do whatever they want and become whoever they want (with hard work and dedication of course)!
This is, like many other changes society had faced throughout history, is a progress. It will not happen tomorrow. With that being said I hope that soon our global community will be a safe place to all its individuals, regardless of gender, identity or ethnicity.
For a very long time I have been struggling with many difficulties. It started with “Shomer Hachomot” and ended up with other personal things that I was trying to find a way to cope with.
For many reasons I felt like I have no one to be there for me, even though I had so much support from many of my friends. Realising that I grow up over the time and very soon will be responsible for myself didn’t make things any better. After a very long time I realized that what’s best for me is to take a break from everything that I have my mind on and decided to go on a vacation to Eilat with my friends.
I am not going to go on the details of every adventure we were on, yet there was something special about these four days in this exotic city. I learned that life is beautiful and that we should do our best and take the most out of it. To be grateful for what we have and learn from anything and anyone we can. I understood the importance of friendship. I am so thankful for my friends that were able to tolerate my and the dark sides of my personality. I learned to experience and decide what’s best for me, and set my boundaries if needed.
Now that I am back home, thinking about all the different things that bother me on a regular basis, I realise how much more I can make out of my life. I am so thankful for everything that I have and have experienced up to this point of my life. I really do hope to make the best out of it.
Very soon I will be responsible for so many things, including my future and welfare. Childhood will be completely behind me. Growing up is very intimidating not going to lie. At least now I came in peace with my inner self. I forgive myself for my mistakes and look forward to get better life for my family friends and myself as well.
To conclude my thoughts I added some pictures from my spiritual vacation:
If there is one thing I take from this year is adaptation: finding the power to admit I am stuck in place and find a new way to fulfil my dreams and sometimes survive. Though there is a catch. It might sound easy to do, but in reality there is so much going on in your life and mind that the effort that has to be made is huge and takes all the emotional power your body carries.
I am going through these thoughts at the moment. I think of the stress and fear I feel, which makes me uncomfortable, almost like I am not loyal to who I am. I know this is not true and that I have so many dreams and aspirations, and that eventually I am on the right way for me.
I learn daily that these thoughts aren’t necessarily bad. Growing and changing is a big part of who we are as humans and it is Okay to change and have new dreams. More than that, the new dreams can help us achieve the old ones and make our lives even more fulfilled.
I am still at the beginning of my 20s and have so much more to achieve in life. It is okay to have doubt. It makes us leave our comfort zone and evolve.
For a very long time, I have been stressing over my own future. To be honest, I have been stressing about it ever since I was young. I have tried to worry less, but I have always wanted to be one step ahead. There were situations where I started underestimating myself or worse- telling myself that I am just not good or worthy enough.
Now I know that I am good enough.
The more I think about it, the more I realise that at this point, stressing over the future has no point: I have done my best and the rest is out of my control. More importantly, my new approach to the future helps me to be more present at the moment and this makes me happier. Enjoying the small moments with my family and friends is just so much more valuable than giving up to the thought of the upcoming future.
I will eventually figure out what will happen, yet all I can do now is to wait patiently, so why should I worry?
There are so many psychological researchers discussing these kind of behaviour, but that is not my point. All these negative thoughts about the future had a negative effect on my behaviour in the present. I did not have to conduct a research to understand that. The minute I switched my approach and became more present, I started appreciating my environment and myself!
Maybe I have a good reason to worry about the future, but there is always another road to take. It is okay to fail and make mistakes. This is how we grow and evolve as human beings.
Our brain is so powerful and we should always navigate ourselves into positive thinking!